Hey, what’s up, guys? It’s Bengt, welcome back to another blog. I want to talk about something important – the fact that you cannot force people to change. Let’s dive in and explore why trying to change others is often toxic and unproductive.
One fundamental truth is that you can’t want someone to change more than they want to change themselves. No matter how hard you try, you can’t instill the same motivation, commitment, or understanding in others. Change has to come from within them.
Think about addictions or unhealthy habits. Most addicts go through multiple withdrawals and relapses because they didn’t genuinely want to quit. On a personal note, I’ve quit smoking on and off because I only used it when I wanted a buzz, and once I didn’t want it anymore, quitting was easy.
The same goes for people you meet – projecting an ideal version of them onto them is unfair and emotionally draining. You can’t treat people like projects and expect them to change according to your vision. They’ll feel unworthy, and you’ll be perpetually disappointed.
Remember, what you see in people is often what you get. Dramatic changes in habits or behavior require a powerful life-altering event. Most people prefer comfort and avoid change, and when they sense someone trying to change them, they run.
In relationships, whether romantic or professional, set a tolerance level for what you’re willing to accept. Don’t be upset when people aren’t willing to change. If they wanted to change, they would already be doing it.
Instead of trying to change others, focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Attract the right people by setting standards for who you want in your life. Learn from past relationships and take responsibility for your own growth.
Ultimately, you can’t change anyone but yourself. Embrace this truth, and you’ll find greater peace and fulfillment in your relationships and life.
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